I was having a conversation one day with someone and we were on the subject of fear. I mentioned that I would not jump out of a plane that was going to land (just for the fun of it). The person told me that I need to do it because “you should overcome all fears”.

That is one of the craziest ideas I have ever heard. I have a fear of putting my finger in a socket when my finger is wet. According to that thought process, I should stick my wet finger in a socket. I have a fear of snakes. So I guess I should do like that show “Fear Factor” and get in a tank full of snakes.

What purpose does it serve? Those snakes are not in my path and keeping me from where I want to go.

Most don’t realize that fear is placed inside of you as a protection mechanism. It is there to keep you out of harms way. That is why I tell people, everyone that is negative about something you are trying to accomplish is not necessarily trying to destroy you, sabotage you and all the other things people are told. Some people actually care and don’t want to see you hurt.

So in both of these instances (fear and negativity), you have to be able to decide on are they protecting you and you need to pay attention or if they are a stumbling block. If they are keeping you from where you want to go, then you must face them and beat them down

As Tony Robbins says, as long as fear is a guide and not a jailor.

With that said, if the plane was about to crash, give me a parachute and I am overcoming that fear. If the house is on fire and a snake is what is keeping me from getting out, that snake and me will rumble. Fear only needs to be addressed if it is blocking you.

I guess instead of the word “Fear” (in these instances), we could use the words Will Smith uses in his new movie – “Danger is real, fear is a choice”. In these instances, it is actually dangerous and I would take them on if presented and I had no choice.

It ain’t right, it ain’t wrong, it’s just my opinion.

Your Uplifting Partner
Ron “Simplified” Myers

How about the belief that people that can talk to everyone, they are communicators and born that way? Sometimes called “natural born sales people.” Aren’t they great communicators?

Well the answer (from my perspective) to both situations is the same. If you learn to get beyond yourself and actually care about what is happening with others, then communication is very easy flowing.

Real quick, let me correct the notion that a “talker” is a communicator. A “talker” is a “talker” and in most instances just want to hear themselves. They are usually looking for someone to agree with their perspectives.

Believe it or not, there are those that say things just to get into a debate. Winning the debate makes them feel “special.”

A great communicator is a person that is a good “listener” and allows others to shine. They can allow others to shine because they are very confident in who they are.

I learned this a long time ago when I met a person that kept asking me questions about basketball (one of my favorite subjects). He allowed me to share my views and his input was actually more “questions”.

I didn’t realize it until later when I analyzed our conversation. I felt he was one of the greatest communicators I had ever met. Then I realized he didn’t talk. He let my favorite subject shine – “Me”.

So to become a great communicator and eliminate the shy belief, just talk with others as if they are human beings. Find out what is going on in their life. Actually care about them.

If you practice “listening” to what people say and “feed back to them what they said”, (to make sure you fully understand), you will notice that people will call you the “Great Communicator”.

By the way, people that use “shy” as a way of “being” are just saying, “I don’t know what to talk with others about and therefore I am uncomfortable.”

Practice caring (for some of you that is going to take practice – lol) and “shy” will go away.

Even those of you who claim to be shy will get on a “roll” and keep talking when it is a subject you are familiar with or that is important to you.

So to become a communicator – find common ground and allow others to shine.

It ain’t right. It ain’t wrong. It’s just my opinion.

Your Uplifting Partner
Ron “Simplified” Myers

NOW HEAR THIS…NOT ALL THIEVES ARE STUPID!!

1. Some people left their car in the long-term parking at San Jose while away, and someone broke into the car. Using the information on the car’s registration in the glove compartment, they drove the car to the people’s home in Pebble Beach and robbed it. So I guess if we are going to leave the car in long-term parking, we should NOT leave the registration/insurance cards in it, nor your remote garage door opener.

This gives us something to think about with all our new electronic technology.

2. GPS.

Someone had their car broken into while they were at a football game. Their car was parked on the green which was adjacent to the football stadium and specially allotted to football fans. Things stolen from the car included a garage door remote control, some money and aGPS which had been prominently mounted on the dashboard. When the victims got home, they found that their house had been ransacked and just about everything worth anything had been stolen. The thieves had used the GPS to guide them to the house. They then used the garage remote control to open the garage door and gain entry to the house. The thieves knew the owners were at the football game, they knew what time the game was scheduled to finish and so they knew how much time they had to clean out the house. It would appear that they had brought a truck to empty the house of its contents.

Something to consider if you have a GPS – don’t put your home address in it… Put a nearby address (like a store or gas station) so you can still find your way home if you need to, but no one else would know where you live if your GPS were stolen.

3. CELL PHONES

I never thought of this…….

This lady has now changed her habit of how she lists her names on her cell phone after her handbag was stolen. Her handbag, which contained her cell phone, credit card, wallet, etc., was stolen. 20 minutes later when she called her hubby, from a pay phone telling him what had happened, hubby says ‘I received your text asking about our Pin number and I’ve replied a little while ago.’ When they rushed down to the bank, the bank staff told them all the money was already withdrawn. The thief had actually used the stolen cell phone to text ‘hubby’ in the contact list and got hold of the pin number. Within 20 minutes he had withdrawn all the money from their bank account.

Moral of the lesson:

a. Do not disclose the relationship between you and the people in your contact list. Avoid using names like Home, Honey, Hubby, Sweetheart, Dad, Mom, etc….

b. And very importantly, when sensitive info is being asked through texts, CONFIRM by calling back.

c. Also, when you’re being texted by friends or family to meet them somewhere, be sure to call back to confirm that the message came from them. If you don’t reach them, be very careful about going places to meet ‘family and friends’ who text you.

*PLEASE PASS THIS ON

* I never thought about the above!

As of now, I no longer have ‘home’ listed on my cell phone.

Even if this does not pertain to you….Pass it on to your family and friends.

Esther (Abraham) made the statement that “The better it gets, the better it gets and the worse it gets, the worse it gets”.

To (simplify) my understanding of what is being said is we continue to attract – “that which we continue to focus on”.

If you are spending your life always looking at how things are wrong. How everyone is evil. How the president is the reason for the worlds problems, etc.; you will continue to have things come into your life to complain about.

Why?

We are like magnets. We attract what will keep us in the same state of mind. That way we can continue to have the same emotions that we have grown comfortable with.

Haven’t you noticed that angry people find a way to be angry over everything (no matter how minor)? People that are really happy, are always happy. Tony Robbin states that each human being has about 6 emotions that they visit routinely, even though there are thousands.

So, if you are an “observer” of life, you respond according to what your eyes can see and what your past has taught you. If you are a “visionary”, you understand that you control your future by what your eyes can see, but what your future will bring. That adjustment on seeing the future in the way you want it is the difference between those that keep the things they have always had (can’t stay in relationships, broke financially and the list goes on) and those that have an incredible future.

By the way, the choice is yours. Be an “observer” of life or be a “visionary” and create your life.

It ain’t right. It ain’t wrong. It’s just my opinion.

Your Uplifting Partner
Ron “Simplified” Myers

My first thought was “I don’t have enemies”. It is a waste of time and energy. The reason I felt this way is because I was looking at the phrase from a “people” perspective. When it comes to human beings, I don’t have enemies. Just because I don’t want to travel the path you are on, it doesn’t make you my enemy. We are just traveling in different directions. It’s that simple. I understand you weren’t born to make me happy, that’s my responsibility.

I thought about the statement a little longer and it hit me, he didn’t say it had to be a person.

So my enemy is “any training” that teaches people that the reason they are where they are in life is because of someone else or something outside of them. When you buy into this philosophy, you become a victim. How can you change things in your life when someone else is in control?

Do things happen that you didn’t plan? Yes, but how you respond is your choice. And the way you respond will determine the action that you will take. The action you take will determine where you will be in the future. The future (that you call today) is in response to the decisions that you made yesterday.

Tony Robbins talked about the difference in people’s life’s comes down to the “decisions” that they make.

Couldn’t be any clearer.

It ain’t right. It ain’t wrong. It’s just my opinion

Ron “Simplified” Myers
Uplifting Life Partner

Relationships are real simple. If you wink, wave, shake hands or just walk past someone, you just had a relationship. Now these may be shallow relationships, but they are relationships. It is an interaction with another. It is that simple.

Now if you want to go deeper because this explanation is too simple, let’s take the word “relate” which is what a relationship is.

Tony Robbins teaches there are 6 human needs. Not wants, needs. We all have different priorities for the 6 needs and we have different ways about achieving the 6 needs. So if we all have the same 6 needs, then again, we are already related.

The reason people have relationship issues are; they spend too much time trying to prioritize other people’s needs for them. No one was born to please you. They are here to travel their own path.

As you watch them and get to know them, you get to “decide” if you want to continue to go down the same path as them. If you don’t agree with them and travel that path with them anyway, don’t blame anyone but yourself for having a frustrating life. You are always in control of your decisions and your emotions.

I know, “I can’t control my emotions”. Yes you can and by the way, “You do”, by the way you think. I am not going to cover emotions here because that is another conversation.

Quit making relationships complicated. Allow people to be themselves and then spend your time with the ones that are attending the same party you want to attend.

It ain’t right. It ain’t wrong. It’s just my opinion.

Your Uplifting Partner
Ron “Simplified” Myers

Well I am going to throw some stuff in the water. You do not have a subconscious mind and it is not doing anything in the background.

What you talking about Ron?

Everything that you have in your mind was put there consciously. You have had and continue to have experiences in your life. You write a story about what occurred (your perspective).

The more you write (add) to the story and keep repeating it to yourself, it turns into a belief. So through your conscious efforts, you have programmed yourself to see the world in a certain way.

That conscious programming is what people have labeled “subconscious mind”. Now, how is it “subconscious” when you “consciously” put it there?

Why is this understanding significant?

If you believe things are playing in the background and are out of your control, you are a victim. If you recognize that you are doing the programming, you know that you have the power to reprogram. This restores the “power” back to you and gives you control of your future.

Enjoy the journey and program the things that will take you where you really want to go.

It ain’t right. It ain’t wrong. It’s just my opinion.

Your Uplifting Partner
Ron “Simplified” Myers

PS – Listening to your inner-self, your source, God, vibration, energy (whatever you believe) is not what I am talking about. “Source” is another conversation and that connection is significant and will never lead you in the wrong direction.